Single men can do well here, and the ones who do are the men who make it easy for a couple, or a woman, to say yes.
Plenty of couples are actively looking for a single man, and many single women would rather meet one man than a pair. What they want is someone relaxed, respectful and clear about what he’s offering. Think of your profile as a first impression at a party: say who you are, what you enjoy outside the bedroom as well as in it, and what you’re hoping to find. Men who sound like decent company get far more replies than men who sound impatient, and nobody minds a bit of humour.
Single men meeting couples
When a couple invites a single man along, it’s almost always because she wants it, so she’s the one to win over. Read their profile for what they’re after: some want a third for a one-off, others a regular friend they already trust. Write to both of them, keep it warm and specific, and suggest meeting for a drink as a three before anything else. If they’re new to it, be patient. Being the calm, considerate one is what gets you asked back.
Your first time as a single male swinger
Expect it to take a little while. Get verified, put up a friendly photo, fill in your profile properly, and spend a week or two reading how people talk to each other before you dive in. Socials that welcome single men are a good place to start if there’s one near you: meeting people face to face, with no expectations, does more for your reputation than a hundred messages. When a meet does happen, turn up on time, sober enough to read the room, and ready to take no for an answer.
Single men swingers near you
Many first meets happen fairly close to home, so it pays to be specific about where you’re based and how far you’re happy to travel. Offering to go to the couple, rather than asking them to come to you, makes saying yes easier. Respect anyone who wants to stay discreet: never contact members off the site uninvited, and never share anything they’ve sent you. Word gets round quickly in the lifestyle, and a good name is worth more than any photo.
